Unlock Success: 5 Powerful Mindset Shifts That Changed My Life (that can change yours too)
Pc: Jennibrhodes
Many of us are on a self taught discovery journey to finding self love, respect and appreciation for ourselves and that admittedly can be quite difficult when life proves to stand as any obstacles as it possibly can, in our way.
Well that’s what it may seem like, have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try, something is holding you back from living the life you truly desire?
I’ve been there. I’m here to tell you that you’re certainly not alone in any of this, many of us do feel negatively about certain blockages and shall we say ‘bumps in the road’ that multiply and go on to effect our everyday daily lives, work and professional tasks, our relationships and friendships with others and even, more importantly, our relationships with ourselves.
For years, I struggled with self-doubt, fear of failure, and a constant feeling of not being enough. It wasn’t until I began to explore the power of mindset that I realised how my thoughts were truly influencing my reality.
If you’re someone who dreads this journey daily, if you’ve become exhausted from not finding out the right answer’s or you are constantly having to push those obstacles away, then this post is perfect for you, as all it takes to make a change are subtle mindset shifts.
It’s important to also remember that our minds are incredibly powerful, and the way we think can either propel us forward or keep us stuck in the same patterns. Throughout my journey of personal growth, I discovered that by shifting my mindset, I could transform not only the way I saw myself but also how I interacted with the world around me. These mindset shifts didn’t just change my perspective; they changed my entire life.
So read on to find out 5 powerful mindset shifts that changed my life and in the process can help you to become a more happier and more fulfilled version of yourself.
From Scarcity to Abundance
Many of you might’ve heard certain buzzwords floating around within the mental health and wellness online community that are the polar opposite; ‘scarcity mindsets’ and ‘abundance mindsets’.
A scarcity mindset explains the feelings of constant stress and anxiety that there isn’t enough for you. That you have to overcome many obstacles just to be able to attempt to reach your basic life goals and desires.
For a long time, I lived with a scarcity mindset. I was constantly worried that there wasn’t enough for me, which is similar to a victim mindset, I thought I was the only one who couldn’t achieve what I wanted to do, everything was out to get me. When this couldn’t of been any further from the truth.
Whether it was not having more time, friends, money, opportunities and even love. I was constantly in my head thinking; “everyone else seems to be achieving their own goals seemingly, why aren’t I?”
Until I realised by having this attitude towards my life I was actively self sabotaging and holding myself back, massively.
That’s where the shift to an abundance mindset is key. This explains letting go of these worries, shifting from a victim to a go- getter mindset, being a dreamer to taking swift action, understanding that there is an abundance of everything, for everyone.
What once was anxiety and worry, I began to see opportunities, hope and positive chances for me to grow. But let’s be real these changes don’t happen overnight. It took constant recognition, deep reflections which triggered realisations and many mental battles to tell myself, that I needed change.
I also began to consume online content that fitted in with this change, I listened to podcasts (mainly by Jay Shetty, he is the ultimate mindset coach and my personal go to for mindset and positivity content), I read self help books to educate my mind and immediately stopped of any unhealthy habits that didn’t benefit me and my personal growth. Still, this change takes time, deep dedication and commitment, but it sure is worth the reward.
I StartED to see challenges & fear as opportunities to grow
The common saying “do what scares you, until it doesn’t” might seem scary and out of your personal comfort zone, but it sure is true. Through doing things that you are fearful of, you improve your overall personal development.
Many studies even show fear controls many of our decisions whether we are consciously aware of it or not; as it gives us that extra security blanket and control. But we may seem like we are protecting ourselves with avoiding certain challenges, taking the easy way out when becoming fearful, and it can even give the illusion that we have succeeded through our dilemmas.
However by - passing challenges and certain fears doesn’t do much at all. In fact, in can almost regress our personal development as fear stops us from taking care of ourselves.
Fear used to control nearly all of my decisions. I was afraid of failure, afraid of the unknown, and afraid of what others might think. Until started to realise certain patterns in my behaviours, I was preventing myself from living the life I truly desired.
Then i started to adopt what you could call a ‘faith mindset’. I started to believe that what i wanted to become and acheive was already there for me within my grasp I just had to overcome all of these micro fears in order to truly see it.
If this describes yourself perfectly and you are on the cusp of seeing new challenges and all of your fears to be more like opportunities to grow, then my advice is to start off small.
Whether it’s eating alone by yourself in a restaurant, starting of a conversation with a stranger, learning or speaking a new langauge. Whatever it may be. Just start now, get over these small ‘bumps in the road’, and then you will start to build up confidence, little by little, to combat the bigger more important challenges.
Prioritising long term gratification over short term satisfaction
Another mindset shift that completely changed the game for me, personally, was to start making decisions within my life that prioritised long term gratification.
In a world where instant results and quick fixes are constantly marketed and sold to us, it's easy to fall into the trap of seeking immediate pleasure, immediate problem solving and making impulsive decisions that don’t really benefit us or our lives, in the long term.
I realised this was especially apparent within my financial habits and spendings. I would think nothing of spending what I didn’t have to gain those quick fixes of dopamine whether it was on a shopping trip, a night out, buying gifts for others or even myself.
However, by focusing on long-term goals and the benefits they bring, I've found greater fulfillment and success. This shift not only enhances self-discipline but also builds resilience, helping you stay committed to your bigger picture.
Trust me, the satisfaction of achieving your long-term goals far outweighs any fleeting moment of pleasure. This is a mindset shift so powerful that it can truly change your life, helping you to stay focused, motivated, and aligned with your true desires.
From perfectionism to progress
I admittedly struggled with perfectionism for years, and when i thought I had overcome it, there was always another bigger challenge I had to push through instead. This process became exhausting which lead to an increase in stress and procrastination, eventually causing me to miss many opportunities and to just lack on my overall work ethic.
I found that to overcome my initial challenges I worked on completing tasks that I had with the mindset that I needed to prioritise progress over the quality. I focused on just getting the job done and tweaking whatever I needed to, when it was completed.
This way I focused less on the final outcome and instead on what I actually needed to do. More often than not I always found that when I completed the task there wasn’t that much that I did need to change, the shift to progression over perfectionism ultimately showed me that I was actually in fact nitpicking, unnecessarily.
Letting go of what i couldn’t control
This final positive mindset shift was potentially the most powerful. When I was in a place of thinking with a scarcity mindset, letting fear take control, making decisions with short term satisfaction and letting my perfectionism take over, I noticed a pattern. I mostly was in a place of stress and worry about what I couldn’t control. These anxieties scared me and for a long time I hid from them, when instead I should’ve used these fears and feelings of uneasiness as a motivator.
The best advice that I received was to spend more time stressing aboiut what you’re doing now, in the present moment for your future, than you actually are about your future. Doing something small, that sets you up for the life you desire and truly want ultimately gives you peace of mind about what you lack control of.
This positive shift allows you to take more control of your own life and decisions without you even realising it.
These five positive mindset shifts have had a profound impact on my life, and I hope they inspire you to reflect on your own current realities too. Remember, the way you think shapes your reality. By shifting your mindset, you have the power to change your life in ways you never thought possible.
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